Essentially, A relationship is meant to be full of support, trust and ‘love’ (quoted coz I’m not sure it exists). Anyways, we operate in a system where friendship is the focal point of everything and as depicted by my 3am blog, the bogus part of a relationship is not the startup but the maintanance part.
Anyhow, here go my rules:
Loosen Up
I’ve got into arguments just because of glancing at girls that walk by us. Its not like I’m trying to sleep with them or something related to that. Lets me put it as appreciating Gods work as a fine curve artist. Besides, he needs the credit.
Making me forget my own
There is nothing as disturbing as she wanting you to drop your friend. Keep in mind, this are friends you had even before she was part of you. Ditching my friends won’t make this better and it adds up the lonely atmosphere that I already thing I’m getting into. All you (yes you) need to do is be appreciative of his best and worst friends. Matter of fact…… No, i dont want to start it. (Point already driven)
Hiding the past
Make the past visible and clear and this should be done on the initial stages of the relationship. Remember, the world is turning so are our past (I think Karma operates this way) and eventually the ‘cat will be out of the bag’ (hope i got that expression right). An example is you having a thing with a girl and its been like 6 months into you. Happens she has already dated your friend. its a KO on spot. ( a little mike tyson blow wont hurt!) ha..ha… Anyways be open.
Spying on Him
Oh..Oh.. Here we go, she contacts Cheaters to spy. One thing I believe in is doing something for a reason and if he/ she plays you then find out the reason why before employing movie tactics on an actual relatinship.. thats acting my dear.
Arguments over Instincts.
On my own research (not so broad research) I have noted a lot of arguments arise due to instincts.This is usually a core factor and all I can advice you is to get facts right and make the talk worth. An african like me cannot waste time talking about pure fiction. Get your facts right and come… Ill have time for that.
Anyways, this are just some of the reasons that drive me off and i welcome any comments and statements regarding this. feel free to add your own relationship rules. Cheers and keep the relationship healthy.
Note: This rules may not necessarily apply to your relationship but they sure do work around me.
On rules of engagement,at some point your are damn right,if you allow me i will quote what you once said,relationship doesn't add anything to your account and its true what ladies nowadays is look for a guy who is earning some gud money{i am a case study},ok its important to be financially stable but the foundation has to be way above that,first there has to be love,respect and above all trust.Most of the ladies does not lay all this as there foundation for there relationship thats why you see most of them growing old looking for mr.right.I tell you dude not even a single lady in the name of supernova will come and dictate terms and conditions in my crib……….whether its a 10 by 10 or a palace.
Oh Good….. reasoning erick
WILBER WE MUST MAKE IT BIG IN LIFE:Oftentimes, people who aren't fulfilling their destiny will try to discourage you from fulfilling yours. They may not do it intentionally, but they'll tell you what you can't do and how things won't work out. They're quick to remind you of all your impossibilities. Your relatives, co-workers and friends may try to talk you out of your dream, but that's because God didn't put that promise in them; He put it in you. You have to remember that other people don't determine your destiny; God does. He holds your destiny in the palm of His hand. If you will keep believing, God will not only bring it to pass, but He will do more than you can ask or think.Wilber, don't let someone else's unbelief keep you from believing. Don't let other people talk you out of your dreams. It's time to get into agreement with God. He says you are well able. He says you are equipped. He says you are qualified. He says you are anointed, called and appointed to fulfill every dream and desire He's placed in your heart!Wilber you must be wondering if i have become some pastor today,wonder no more because i strongly believe now i just did some tremendous things which in some days ago i could not believe i could……..Great day and God bless buddy.
Losen Up: You have a point when you said, ´you have to appreciate God´s work´ but the question really is ´ HOW?´
Yes you can glance,………. or do whatever Boys do to appericiaate God´s work, but it´s the HOW you did it that brings all the difference of a Boy appreciating or just being low.
Making me forget my own: One question:what if it´s the ´friends´ causing the ´tides´ in your relationship????? I think there has to be a time when you will have to make a choice thats either for you to work towards making the relationship work or your friend, but that totally depends with an individual.
Spying is low but boys do it too, so ´Spying on Him/Her´ topic would do not only Him. But there also has to be something amiss with the relationship or the person for one to start spying.
80% of a woman instinct are alway right ´scientifical proved´ , i also admit some are always unnecessary and that total also depends on how one thinks.
Erick Osike: Not every Lady believes ´in Mr. Right´ crap, and if you go through what you have just written again ´Girls look for guys with money´ your research is below bar, what if the girl owns her own money?? Where does that leave your comment ?When you got a Golddigger sorry but they also have to be there, that a fact and it ain´t going soon,instead will be worse with time, so get used to it or search in the right places using right methods.